Hello I’m Matt Fox
Thanks for visiting. Here are some things you might want to know about me and further down you’ll find a couple of videos where you can see me in action talking about my work. That might give you a flavour of what it’s like to work with me.
My special interest: adult children of narcissistic parents
Over the years, I’ve developed a particular interest in working with adult children of narcissistic parents and helping them recover from narcissistic abuse.
This mouthful of a term relates to people who’ve somehow had an experience of parenting that really didn’t connect or support them with who they are. The opposite in fact. They often had to mould themselves to fit who their parents wanted them to be.
A narcissistic parent can be harsh or demanding of love on their terms. Their children often lack confidence or self-esteem, spend life second guessing others’ intentions and form difficult, co-dependent relationships.
People rarely come to see me with saying they had a narcissistic parent, but it often emerges in our work together. I work to help them reclaim their own story, sense of self and re-define, if helpful and needed, the relationship with a difficult parent.
With time and healing, it is possible to shed those old beliefs and patterns and to step into life with clarity and courage, living the life they want to on their terms.
I’m a post graduate qualified counsellor working online and in Totnes, Torquay, Paignton.
I’m registered and accredited with the BACP (Register n. 40490). So you can be confident that I have both studied in depth and met nationally recognised standards to practise safely as a counsellor.
I trained as a Psychosynthesis counsellor at the Psychosynthesis and Education Trust, the UK’s oldest and most respected training body for Psychosynthesis counselling. The course was validated by the University of East London. Psychosynthesis is a soulful, gentle way of being both with your pain and your potential, and believing in each person’s individual wisdom and capacity to feel well and whole.
In my earlier life, I did my first degree at the University of Oxford and then a PhD.
Why I became a counsellor
Like many, I came to counselling having had a profound and life changing experience of counselling myself. This inspired me to train as a counsellor and to offer the potential of that healing experience to others.
Another of the things that has helped me throughout my life is being in nature. I felt this might be the case for some of my clients too. So I also trained in depth as an ecotherapist with the late Martin Jordan, one of the UK’s leading practitioners and innovators in this space, developing skills to take counselling outdoors into nature.
I love writing too, for its own sake and as a therapeutic tool. As well as my own blog, I write for the Counselling Directory, the most popular UK directory of counsellors and have been featured in Sussex Counselling’s magazine talking about ecotherapy. I run occasional therapeutic writing courses in Totnes, Paignton and Newton Abbot.
Introduction to Counselling in Totnes, Paignton and Torquay Video
Introduction to Ecotherapy in Totnes, Paignton and Torquay Video
Hours and location
The Nautilus Rooms
35a Fore Street
My main hours of work are:
Monday to Thursday
9am to 6pm